You know what? What our country is doing about bullying in our schools reminds me of our so typical "mushroom society." If you keep us in the dark long enough and feed us a bunch of crap... we will get over it and go on with our lives.
Well... I'm sorry. But this isn't good enough for me, when someone asked me for help!
Here is the most educational link on the matter I could find.
http://www.schoolsecurity.org/trends/bullying.html
Michigan already has a "policy" against bullying. So we are not getting any help at all. Either each state takes it upon themselves to have an anti-bullying law or the rug is still going to be there waiting to have more examples swept underneath!
What is happening with health care is a good example of what anti-bullying laws will become once they finally get some attention.
OMGosh.. don't EVEN get me started on insurance and THOSE bullies!!!
It is the well-to-do people against the weak... and always will be.
Meanwhile, school budgets are still cut while state lotteries and taxes run high!
I think this just helped me make up my mind as to what I am going to do with this letter.
The meeting about recent bullying in our schools and the very things this letter wanted to call to my attention was held today, but not open to the public, so tomorrow, I'm going to contact our school district and ask what happened in this "closed" meeting they supposedly had... and if I don't get an answer...
I am going public with the anonymous letter I received.
It is time to take out the rugs and shake them a bit.
LeFerna
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Monday, March 15, 2010
Bullies in School - An anonymous letter
Recently I received an anonymous letter asking me as an author, to help expose our local schools for sweeping bullying under the rug. And of course this bullying for the most part came from school athletes that the school needs for the only publicity they can get!
Afraid of the press, the letter complained that the school is giving lesser punishment for outrageous crimes that should get permanent expulsion and top juvenile punishment to the extent of the law. The crimes mentioned involve beating a child to the point of hospitalization and middle school wrestlers sexually abusing a "special needs student" and only getting ten days off from school.
At first I cried and went into my shock mode... just wanting to shut down and shut it all out like everyone else not directly involved... but knowing God calls my attentino to these things for a reason, I have to be true to His Word as if I answered these anonymous "concerned citizens" myself. Since these are minors they are protected, and I live in a small area which would not be hard to figure out the name of the school... it took me some time to respond. I contacted my pastor first and he told me that the school has already contacted him. He said our super-intendant is a Christian woman and wants to stop these problems of bullying in our schools, but the state has cut their budget, and they can't add the anti-bullying curriculum needed. (Which for some dumb reason is all an outside program)
I did some research and it seems our super-intendant's prayers may be coming true.
Recently a school from the same county was ordered to pay $800,000.00 to a student who was bullied in that school... so perhaps the governor will have a change of mind about these cuts.
Michigan is only one of a few states that have not passed a law against bullying.
If this were a law, that children were given hard punishment and permanent expulsion... AND even taken out of sports... Just maybe this would solve the problem! I have been there as a parent of a bullied child in these same schools and it seems like it has only gotten worse because nothing has ever been done.
Not trusting our local school board because they are usually parents of these same types of students... or athletic directors in need of the talents of these kids to keep our school "up there" on the list of good schools... (URGH) and knowing first hand how the parents of bullies can be bullies themselves, I believed this anonymous letter to be true.
My sons went to this school and had to deal with bullying and abuse by students trying to be more "popular" while living up to a more well-known "name" than they had. Ten years apart, my younger son dealt with more than the older son... but from what I say, the bullying always had to do with sports. Good or bad.
I will NEVER forget the school paper reporting student deaths as "lost athletes" instead of good students and friends. I couldn't believe this. This same year we lost students from accidents on the ice and even an asthma attack... but only the athletic students seemed to matter to our school. It was SO obvious. So when I got this anonymous letter I couldn't help but know these bullies were probably athletes... since they "could do no wrong" and seemed to run the school.
Although... I may be prejudice since my sons were victims of small-town athletics. Growing up, they didn't have a dad that would coach or sit on the board... so they had to earn their credits and it wasn't easy and even harder for my second son when he grew into athletic age in our schools.
There were two boys who were popular because their brother had been killed by a drunk driver in a car wreck on 4/20... (I wont' go into that) Popular not just because of talent, since the school has so many good ball-players, but the school accepted money from the boy's family to improve their baseball stadium, and their only payment was naming the stadium after the boy (of course) A BIG mistake just waiting to cause problems with other students who felt like "nobodies" and all the athletes who did NOT have a stadium named after their brother. Anyway... my son was very popular and well-liked in school without the sports... until high school. A yo-yo champion and a skateboard master, he may have been content to never play sports in school, but of all things, his brother was nearly killed and went into a coma that year... so his little brother set out to be good in baseball since his brother could no longer play his favorite sport. He knew his brother was part of the team that won the school its highest place in the league. He took his brother;s number and fought hard to practice and work hard. While his brother was lucky to be alive, learning everything the second time in his life as precious as walking... his friends were practicing with his little brother to teach him how to play ball. Unlike his brother, the only early baseball he played was when I coached T-ball one year. Something our town didn't have.
Anyway, without sports, my youngest son was well-liked and popular until these certain boys "took over" the high school... The younger boy who was one year under my son, and when he came up to the high school, he almost immediately started calling my son degrading names, deliberately attacking him online first (the bully's way today) then when confronted by my son about these names, he was forced to do the same in front of his peers as a power-play, working to win a position in high school as kids do. My son actually wanted to make friends with this kid, since they would both be on the baseball team... so he asked him why he called him those things when he didn't even know him... and the kid remarked... because its true and called him the names again! With friends gathered, taunting my son not to take it... and worse my sons so-called friends chanting out to the other kid as on his side... that is all it took... a fight broke out in the hall and my son accidently broke his nose... which only invited the older brother to get in on the whole thing... and word was out that he threaten to kill my son for what he did to his little brother!
Threats like this were not taken lightly with all the shootings in schools... and these boys seemed VERY unstable... and you would think teachers would have heard this threat and taken it serious... but no... so guess who came between them when the older brother waited outside the office for my son to be released to me. He was yelling and swearing at my son uncontrollably... and when he said; "I'm gonna kill you!" and went after my son... I threw my chest at him and asked; "do you want a piece of me?" and he started swearing and calling ME names... so I was in his face about his foul language and how he was talking to a parent after that... like he cared. Maybe, since he had OBVIOUSLY never been taught to respect adults... it may not have been the best thing to do... but no one stands there threatening my son's life with F this and F that... that I don't get in their face! If I wouldn't have ordered my son to go to the car... I am sure he would have loved to fight his own battle. AGAIN.
Then of course... I was the one who was escorted out, and the brother got a pat on the back as teachers FINALLY gathered to calm him down and console him.
No one consoled me or my son.
He would have gotten no punishment if I hadn't contacted the school and insisted on it... but even then, he only got a few days off from school with his brother. This is the most punishment the school has ever given for bullying... then they were all thrown back in the "ring" together when their "vacation" was over. I call it a vacation... because my son actually got ten days of PEACE.
Since his friends turned against him and stated following the lead of the brothers... turning them against him, his grades started falling and he wasn't happy in the school. Since "school of choice" came into effect, I took him out of the school and put him into another school 12 miles away. His grades went to straight As and he met the sweetest girl that he has been with now for six years.
I will never forget when his "friends" bashed in our mail box among other things as their final goodbye... and being a left-handed pitcher, the new school was thrilled to have him. I will never foget one of the parents calling him a traiter when he had to come back and play against his old school. Sorry... but I was thrilled myself when he stuck the kid out that treated him so badly in the school he had grown up with.
Now it is clear that the bullying is worse in this school. The victims aren't like my son who can defend himself by giving the bully a broken nose... they are "easy prey." And they are getting abused in ways that make you sick... and the students are still getting the same lesser punishment of a few days off for fun times when they should go to boot camp and be suspended from the school and from sports for good!
Yes, bullies are the subject of my book "The Secret of Yahweh!" The message is that if we only allowed "The Ten Simple Rules" to be taught in public schools from grade one, the attitude of the students would be different and we wouldn't be struggling to pass laws to protect our children against bullying.
You can't "be like Jesus" if you don't know and respect who He is! I was unchurched and didn't even know who Jesus was most of my life... but I respected God and his laws about loving thy neighbor as your brother and being a good person. I was still taught that by my parents even if they didn't go to church all the time.
We could go into the schools and try to teach this approach... but "the separation of church and state" always gets in the way! And This is what gets me going!
THERE IS NO SUCH THING!!! It is just another stupid misunderstanding in one of the most promising countries in the world... something that Satan is continually laughing at because it has never been corrected all these years... This EXCUSE to ban all we fight for, is nothing more than a quote from a letter... and guess what? Its the bullies out there that want to keep this in place!
Bullies are not only in schools... they are everywhere!
Church and State??? This is not a LAW at all and SO misunderstood... Yes... thanks to ignorant Americans it is being made a law. And now if we fight it, we will find that it is a "grandfather law" much larger than all others. Set in place many years ago.
We did this bullying thing to ourselves America!
Satan was successful at using the old "power play" of different faiths to try and change our Christian beliefs... yes the devil was plainning "grandfather laws" the minute we first set foot on American soil. And of all things in our country... "grandfather laws" are only supposed to count when it comes to cattle and property!
While thinking of a way to pass a NATIONAL anti-bullying law in schools to make children AND parents accountable... I have wondered if our schools should be protected under this same kind of "grandfather law," The Ten Commandments.
Just because people are not following God's "Ten Simple Rules" anymore, does that mean our children should suffer?
I urge you to help me wake up the grandfather of all time. America is founded on Christian faith whether our "public" schools know it or not.
So... back to the point in the beginning of this blog...
The anonymous letter I received from "concerned citizens" said they googled; bullying in our local schools, and found my name, as a advocate against school bullying AND of course bringing the love of Jesus back in to public schools... which tells me this letter came from a praying Christian.
The biggest problem addressed in this letter to me was how bullying was being swept under the rug... the parents were harassing the victim's parents so they wouldn't press charges... and how teachers and the school board would not say "everything" for fear of bad press... and the "policy" only requires the lesser punishment of expulsion for only ten days.
To me... the fact that bullying has gotten worse... since the same bullies that got away with so much in our schools are now the parents of bullies! Oh... and did I mention they were carrying on the name in sports, too? Students are never permanently taken out of sports.
Everyone wants a fix to these problems in our schools, but not everyone realizes the politics involved. Parental politics especially!
And I am SURE I will hear about this... my mail box may be bashed and maybe even my home torched!
So be it!
The answer is to add prayer and JESUS back into our school curriculum....
I think there should be a new voting system set in public schools on this subject... If not... "choice of schools" and local private schools are going to prevail. Not every family can home-school due to the need of both parents working full time jobs... but there is always the future of teachers who comes into the home to teach the children. I think that could be the future if they keep this up... and the main courses would teach our kids to defend themselves against bullies!
This anonymous letter implied that since I was an author and my platform was against bullying in school, that I might be able to help them get their message out.
So for these anonymous "concerned citizens" my answer is prayer.
If I wasn't an author with a book out there to promote, I would have acted sooner.
The last thing I want to do is "use" this anonymous plea to promote my book... but then if more peopel followed "The Ten Simple Rules" we wouldn't EVEN be sharing this blog!
I invite your comments on Bullying in our schools...
LeFerna
Afraid of the press, the letter complained that the school is giving lesser punishment for outrageous crimes that should get permanent expulsion and top juvenile punishment to the extent of the law. The crimes mentioned involve beating a child to the point of hospitalization and middle school wrestlers sexually abusing a "special needs student" and only getting ten days off from school.
At first I cried and went into my shock mode... just wanting to shut down and shut it all out like everyone else not directly involved... but knowing God calls my attentino to these things for a reason, I have to be true to His Word as if I answered these anonymous "concerned citizens" myself. Since these are minors they are protected, and I live in a small area which would not be hard to figure out the name of the school... it took me some time to respond. I contacted my pastor first and he told me that the school has already contacted him. He said our super-intendant is a Christian woman and wants to stop these problems of bullying in our schools, but the state has cut their budget, and they can't add the anti-bullying curriculum needed. (Which for some dumb reason is all an outside program)
I did some research and it seems our super-intendant's prayers may be coming true.
Recently a school from the same county was ordered to pay $800,000.00 to a student who was bullied in that school... so perhaps the governor will have a change of mind about these cuts.
Michigan is only one of a few states that have not passed a law against bullying.
If this were a law, that children were given hard punishment and permanent expulsion... AND even taken out of sports... Just maybe this would solve the problem! I have been there as a parent of a bullied child in these same schools and it seems like it has only gotten worse because nothing has ever been done.
Not trusting our local school board because they are usually parents of these same types of students... or athletic directors in need of the talents of these kids to keep our school "up there" on the list of good schools... (URGH) and knowing first hand how the parents of bullies can be bullies themselves, I believed this anonymous letter to be true.
My sons went to this school and had to deal with bullying and abuse by students trying to be more "popular" while living up to a more well-known "name" than they had. Ten years apart, my younger son dealt with more than the older son... but from what I say, the bullying always had to do with sports. Good or bad.
I will NEVER forget the school paper reporting student deaths as "lost athletes" instead of good students and friends. I couldn't believe this. This same year we lost students from accidents on the ice and even an asthma attack... but only the athletic students seemed to matter to our school. It was SO obvious. So when I got this anonymous letter I couldn't help but know these bullies were probably athletes... since they "could do no wrong" and seemed to run the school.
Although... I may be prejudice since my sons were victims of small-town athletics. Growing up, they didn't have a dad that would coach or sit on the board... so they had to earn their credits and it wasn't easy and even harder for my second son when he grew into athletic age in our schools.
There were two boys who were popular because their brother had been killed by a drunk driver in a car wreck on 4/20... (I wont' go into that) Popular not just because of talent, since the school has so many good ball-players, but the school accepted money from the boy's family to improve their baseball stadium, and their only payment was naming the stadium after the boy (of course) A BIG mistake just waiting to cause problems with other students who felt like "nobodies" and all the athletes who did NOT have a stadium named after their brother. Anyway... my son was very popular and well-liked in school without the sports... until high school. A yo-yo champion and a skateboard master, he may have been content to never play sports in school, but of all things, his brother was nearly killed and went into a coma that year... so his little brother set out to be good in baseball since his brother could no longer play his favorite sport. He knew his brother was part of the team that won the school its highest place in the league. He took his brother;s number and fought hard to practice and work hard. While his brother was lucky to be alive, learning everything the second time in his life as precious as walking... his friends were practicing with his little brother to teach him how to play ball. Unlike his brother, the only early baseball he played was when I coached T-ball one year. Something our town didn't have.
Anyway, without sports, my youngest son was well-liked and popular until these certain boys "took over" the high school... The younger boy who was one year under my son, and when he came up to the high school, he almost immediately started calling my son degrading names, deliberately attacking him online first (the bully's way today) then when confronted by my son about these names, he was forced to do the same in front of his peers as a power-play, working to win a position in high school as kids do. My son actually wanted to make friends with this kid, since they would both be on the baseball team... so he asked him why he called him those things when he didn't even know him... and the kid remarked... because its true and called him the names again! With friends gathered, taunting my son not to take it... and worse my sons so-called friends chanting out to the other kid as on his side... that is all it took... a fight broke out in the hall and my son accidently broke his nose... which only invited the older brother to get in on the whole thing... and word was out that he threaten to kill my son for what he did to his little brother!
Threats like this were not taken lightly with all the shootings in schools... and these boys seemed VERY unstable... and you would think teachers would have heard this threat and taken it serious... but no... so guess who came between them when the older brother waited outside the office for my son to be released to me. He was yelling and swearing at my son uncontrollably... and when he said; "I'm gonna kill you!" and went after my son... I threw my chest at him and asked; "do you want a piece of me?" and he started swearing and calling ME names... so I was in his face about his foul language and how he was talking to a parent after that... like he cared. Maybe, since he had OBVIOUSLY never been taught to respect adults... it may not have been the best thing to do... but no one stands there threatening my son's life with F this and F that... that I don't get in their face! If I wouldn't have ordered my son to go to the car... I am sure he would have loved to fight his own battle. AGAIN.
Then of course... I was the one who was escorted out, and the brother got a pat on the back as teachers FINALLY gathered to calm him down and console him.
No one consoled me or my son.
He would have gotten no punishment if I hadn't contacted the school and insisted on it... but even then, he only got a few days off from school with his brother. This is the most punishment the school has ever given for bullying... then they were all thrown back in the "ring" together when their "vacation" was over. I call it a vacation... because my son actually got ten days of PEACE.
Since his friends turned against him and stated following the lead of the brothers... turning them against him, his grades started falling and he wasn't happy in the school. Since "school of choice" came into effect, I took him out of the school and put him into another school 12 miles away. His grades went to straight As and he met the sweetest girl that he has been with now for six years.
I will never forget when his "friends" bashed in our mail box among other things as their final goodbye... and being a left-handed pitcher, the new school was thrilled to have him. I will never foget one of the parents calling him a traiter when he had to come back and play against his old school. Sorry... but I was thrilled myself when he stuck the kid out that treated him so badly in the school he had grown up with.
Now it is clear that the bullying is worse in this school. The victims aren't like my son who can defend himself by giving the bully a broken nose... they are "easy prey." And they are getting abused in ways that make you sick... and the students are still getting the same lesser punishment of a few days off for fun times when they should go to boot camp and be suspended from the school and from sports for good!
Yes, bullies are the subject of my book "The Secret of Yahweh!" The message is that if we only allowed "The Ten Simple Rules" to be taught in public schools from grade one, the attitude of the students would be different and we wouldn't be struggling to pass laws to protect our children against bullying.
You can't "be like Jesus" if you don't know and respect who He is! I was unchurched and didn't even know who Jesus was most of my life... but I respected God and his laws about loving thy neighbor as your brother and being a good person. I was still taught that by my parents even if they didn't go to church all the time.
We could go into the schools and try to teach this approach... but "the separation of church and state" always gets in the way! And This is what gets me going!
THERE IS NO SUCH THING!!! It is just another stupid misunderstanding in one of the most promising countries in the world... something that Satan is continually laughing at because it has never been corrected all these years... This EXCUSE to ban all we fight for, is nothing more than a quote from a letter... and guess what? Its the bullies out there that want to keep this in place!
Bullies are not only in schools... they are everywhere!
Church and State??? This is not a LAW at all and SO misunderstood... Yes... thanks to ignorant Americans it is being made a law. And now if we fight it, we will find that it is a "grandfather law" much larger than all others. Set in place many years ago.
We did this bullying thing to ourselves America!
Satan was successful at using the old "power play" of different faiths to try and change our Christian beliefs... yes the devil was plainning "grandfather laws" the minute we first set foot on American soil. And of all things in our country... "grandfather laws" are only supposed to count when it comes to cattle and property!
While thinking of a way to pass a NATIONAL anti-bullying law in schools to make children AND parents accountable... I have wondered if our schools should be protected under this same kind of "grandfather law," The Ten Commandments.
Just because people are not following God's "Ten Simple Rules" anymore, does that mean our children should suffer?
I urge you to help me wake up the grandfather of all time. America is founded on Christian faith whether our "public" schools know it or not.
So... back to the point in the beginning of this blog...
The anonymous letter I received from "concerned citizens" said they googled; bullying in our local schools, and found my name, as a advocate against school bullying AND of course bringing the love of Jesus back in to public schools... which tells me this letter came from a praying Christian.
The biggest problem addressed in this letter to me was how bullying was being swept under the rug... the parents were harassing the victim's parents so they wouldn't press charges... and how teachers and the school board would not say "everything" for fear of bad press... and the "policy" only requires the lesser punishment of expulsion for only ten days.
To me... the fact that bullying has gotten worse... since the same bullies that got away with so much in our schools are now the parents of bullies! Oh... and did I mention they were carrying on the name in sports, too? Students are never permanently taken out of sports.
Everyone wants a fix to these problems in our schools, but not everyone realizes the politics involved. Parental politics especially!
And I am SURE I will hear about this... my mail box may be bashed and maybe even my home torched!
So be it!
The answer is to add prayer and JESUS back into our school curriculum....
I think there should be a new voting system set in public schools on this subject... If not... "choice of schools" and local private schools are going to prevail. Not every family can home-school due to the need of both parents working full time jobs... but there is always the future of teachers who comes into the home to teach the children. I think that could be the future if they keep this up... and the main courses would teach our kids to defend themselves against bullies!
This anonymous letter implied that since I was an author and my platform was against bullying in school, that I might be able to help them get their message out.
So for these anonymous "concerned citizens" my answer is prayer.
If I wasn't an author with a book out there to promote, I would have acted sooner.
The last thing I want to do is "use" this anonymous plea to promote my book... but then if more peopel followed "The Ten Simple Rules" we wouldn't EVEN be sharing this blog!
I invite your comments on Bullying in our schools...
LeFerna
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
What does a mother have to do to keep her promise to God?
I've tried everything I can think of to use the talents God has given to me to keep my promise to Him! Nothing is working. What's a mother to do? He saved my son when I promised to tell more people about HIS... so why am I having so much trouble?
The answer. Telling millions about J.C. Lamb is not easy. Making the character He gave me popular is not easy.
My last hope is Angel the Singing Chihuahua. J.C. Lamb's best friend.
LeFerna Aronld Walch
The answer. Telling millions about J.C. Lamb is not easy. Making the character He gave me popular is not easy.
My last hope is Angel the Singing Chihuahua. J.C. Lamb's best friend.
LeFerna Aronld Walch
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